Emma From MAFS UK Shares Insightful Theory Behind Her Split With Caspar

Emma from Married at First Sight UK recently revealed a theory about her relationship with Caspar that touches on moments not seen on screen.

Emma and Caspar were the fifth couple to exit Married at First Sight UK in 2024, joining fellow couples Eve and Charlie, Hannah and Stephen, Ryan and Sionainn, and Alex and Holly.

The couple, paired by experts Paul C Brunson, Mel Schilling, and Charlene Douglas, faced various challenges, including a moment during their honeymoon when Caspar told Emma he didn’t find her “sexy.”

Despite putting in effort to make their relationship work, they ultimately came to the conclusion that they were not compatible, which led to their departure at the penultimate commitment ceremony.

After the airing of the episodes, Emma took to TikTok to share her thoughts: “If you’re puzzled by the way Caspar and I seemed to alternate between warmth and coldness this week, I might have a theory… I hope the experts will appreciate this.”

“Neither Caspar nor I have much relationship experience, which is somewhat unusual for our age. This resulted in us developing a disorganized attachment style, leading us to display elements of all three attachment styles: anxious, avoidant, and secure.”

She continued: “Initially, when one of us said something off, we displayed anxious behavior—like putting up walls. During the ‘love-hate’ week, the negativity primarily occurred before Charlene’s visit, helping us understand how it stirred up some bad vibes.

“We then reacted with anxiety, questioning, ‘What’s going on? Is this even going to work? I’m not sure.'”

Intimacy expert Charlene Douglas engaged with Emma and Caspar during their ‘love-hate’ week, prompting them to participate in a ‘melting hug’, where a prolonged embrace is exchanged.

Emma elaborated, saying: “When Charlene was there, I mentioned that I was uncertain about my ability to be emotionally vulnerable and whether I liked Caspar enough, which likely led to both of us erecting our walls once more.

“Caspar exhibited avoidance in that he struggled with intimacy. While we had exchanged a kiss and participated in the melting hug, it still made us wary, like, ‘What are we doing?’.

“Whenever we approach love, our avoidant tendencies surface, but at the same time, our secure attachment style manifests in the ways we express love.”

She also shared that her love languages include “physical touch and acts of service,” detailing, “You may have observed me expressing love and a secure attachment style through the picnic we shared last week.

“Though the production arranged the picnic, I was aware of it beforehand and even baked sourdough for it.”

“A healthy relationship often features significant physical touch and intimacy; this is my way of expressing love to both friends and romantic partners.”

Emma then identified Caspar’s love languages as “acts of service” and “gift giving,” explaining: “He’d cook meals, assist with chores, and he often gave gifts as well.

“For example, that week, he surprised me with flowers and left a trail of small gifts throughout the house. He even treated me to champagne and strawberries for breakfast, which sometimes left me wondering, ‘What’s the motivation behind this?’—both from the intimacy and gift-giving perspectives.”

It appears that Emma is expressing how both she and Caspar were conveying mixed signals to one another by showing affection while simultaneously communicating something entirely different.

Emma concluded: “The confusion stems from our demonstrated fluctuations between emotional extremes, but ultimately, what we’re experiencing is merely a reflection of our attachment styles.”

“It’s perplexing both for us viewing the past and for the audience as well. Just picture being in our situation!”